Describe your most ideal day from beginning to end.
One of my biggest problems has always been an inability to be satisfied with days that other people might consider ideal. I can see things that could have been even better and I have tended to focus on little irritations or problems that have robbed me of the feeling of an ideal day. A transport issue, a small disagreement or a perception of things being too expensive have always derailed me.
However, in the past year or so I have been making a real effort to appreciate what is happening in the moment. Two days recently come to mind as being close to ideal.
First there was the trip to Stonehenge to walk inside the Stone Circle. It was a morning of magic, peace and happiness, a feeling of coming face to face with an incredible construction whose magic reaches across the millenia. Having the opportunity to explore this incredible monument was an absolute privilege.
Second was our trip to the Salzburg Christmas Market which took place on a day which started with some flakes of snow to add a little touch of festive magic in November. The market was another piece of magic with an atmosphere of friendliness and happiness from everyone around. It was the most relaxed crowd I have ever been in and I loved every minute of it.
Perfect is the enemy of good and I was guilty of expecting perfection for so long. That’s not to say that I never enjoyed days for what they gave me, but I had that tendency to find fault where very little existed. My attitude has changed now and I am finding I am taking far more enjoyment from my experiences. Perhaps the most interesting element of this change is that I am looking back and realising, at last, that I did have more than my share of ideal days which I loved at the time but had recast in my mind as less enjoyable than they actually were. I am happier and now much more likely to have ideal days in many different forms.






How do significant life events or the passage of time influence your perspective on life?
Perspective is, to my way of thinking, a way for the mind to search for patterns. We seem to be genetically hard wired to look for patterns in order to make sense of life. Whether it is the narrow limit of our own life, or the global flow of events, we try to make sense of it with our use of perspective. Often, we impose patterns on things that have happened in retrospect, and those patterns are a case of ‘Post Hoc Ergo Proctor Hoc’ – ‘After it, therefore because of it’. We say, because this happened, that happened, or we were led to this point by whatever supernatural agency you favour. The truth is that our decisions are made from incomplete information, generally random and almost certainly not the result of fate or some guiding force from outside. Note, I say ‘almost certainly’ as I may possibly be wrong. One thing that my perspective has taught me is that I can’t be 100% certain about anything. It is wrong to dismiss someone that you are sure is incorrect or something you are sure is non existent, because, as I said earlier, you are working from very incomplete information.
I am happy to allow for a small element of doubt in the global picture and also to acknowledge that my path through life has been almost entirely random despite any apparent patterns. If you accept those two things ‘you can deal with triumph and disaster and treat those two imposters just the same’.
Something on your “to-do list” that never gets done.
I am and always have been a massive fan of collecting physical media. From my earliest days of cassettes and singles to the recent resurgence of vinyl records, I have always loved to have my own copies of music and films/TV and I still do. The problem, of course, is that I have discs and records everywhere! I have CDs and DVDs in those cases that used to be all the rage as I remove the outer plastic cases as soon as possible. The issue is that I end up with the cases everywhere and I forget what I have and what I haven’t played in ages. So, every year or so I take the cases off of my shelves fully intending to sort them once and for all. I often get a couple of hours in, make some headway and then get completely overwhelmed by the scale of the task!! 😱😱🤣🤣
So, on my to do list this year is sorting out my CDs and DVDs once and for all, as well as reducing the number of records I have. Will it happen? I doubt it somehow but I will definitely post about it if it ever happens!! 🤣🤣 If you are interested in the sheer scale of the task look at the pictures attached!



This is a companion piece of sorts to Life After Full Time Work. What comes next? What can and should I concentrate on? How do I approach the next stage of my life? Some of those questions and many more will be answered in next week’s episode of SOAP! (Extra points for anyone who recognises the reference and if you do, please let me know in the comments!)


Progress Report
I have reposted my aims for this year to get a picture of how I am doing. It is entirely unrealistic, I think, to be working towards all seven goals in the first month of the year. How have I done, looking back at January?
Well, the fitness was a non starter as I have had a seemingly permanent and very heavy cold that has just not left me since just after Christmas. Fortunately, it has abated enough to allow me to start February with two morning workouts using the dumbbells. Full details in my post at the beginning of next month, dealing with February.
I have not spent anything on myself in the entire month. I have avoided my usual online stores, avoided high street stores and even avoided charity shops. Given that I am not bringing any money into the household, that is perhaps to be expected, but it has been far easier than I anticipated. Yes, there are 11 more months of 2026 to go, but I really think I can nail this target and perhaps even surpass it. I have gone back to using the library and have taken out four books, one of which I have read. Alongside those, I have been working my way through the books I received for Christmas and I have not even thought of buying any other books.
The project work has not yet progressed past the planning stage, but I am sure I will get moving on at least a couple of them within the first quarter.
The blogging has continued every day and I have now posted for more than 200 days in a row. My January figures were 1828 views, more than 10 times as many as last January! Two days into February my total views is very close to 2000, so things are looking really positive.
My social media use has really reduced. I have closed down my profiles on BlueSky and Threads and I don’t miss either platform. I barely opened Facebook until January 28 and only did so to post about my best friend 30 years on from his death. I realised that I didn’t really have Facebook FOMO! At present I will keep Facebook and dip into it, but daily use is now in the past. I still get value from Twitter and Instagram, but I am using them far less than I used to. To a very large extent I have stopped double-screening whilst watching TV. It still happens but when I catch myself doing it I put the phone face down and that’s enough. I am getting far more out of TV programmes and films and I don’t see myself slipping back.
Workwise I have an interview with the RCA next week, so that’s a positive sign. I have also started the process of becoming a volunteer reader for an organisation called Coram Beanstalk. It looks really interesting, but the next month or so will decide whether or not I am a good fit for the organisation and vice versa.
Creativity, rather like project work, is still in the abstract stage at the moment! I want to try poetry, short stories and maybe some drawing, but I can’t quite get myself in the mindset. Again, I hope to get moving on this during the first quarter.
Books Read
Cratchit by R.M. Bouknight
Estella’s Fury by Barbara Havelocke
Adam and Eve and Pinch Me by Ruth Rendell
The Two of Us by Sheila Hancock
The Familiars by Stacey Halls
Listening to the Music the Machines Make by Richard Evans (in progress)
Final Thoughts
I feel as though I have made a fairly decent start, and February is already looking positive with the fitness regime having been started. I will let you know how February goes at the start of March so watch this space if you are interested!
