What strategies do you use to increase comfort in your daily life?

It’s not often that I feel totally comfortable with life outside of the home but I always do inside. My comfort stems from my wife and children who give me the base I need to feel secure. I don’t go out on my own very often, if at all, because I don’t like being away from the family. If I go out it is almost invariably with one or more of the family. I don’t have friends who I go to see or who I go out for a drink with and I don’t feel like I am missing out.
I do recognise that occasionally comfort can drift into inertia but my own nature goes against that because I find it hard to do nothing. With the security of my family I feel like I can take chances in life, as my recent decision is testament to. They give me the confidence to stretch myself in total safety. I have done so much in life that I would never have done without them, like living in Japan, Hong Kong and Australia. The one time I wasn’t with my family for and extended period was when I lived and taught in Saudi Arabia for six months. That was enough for me as no amount of money a month could compensate for their absence.
Family is everything to me and without them I have no comfort.

On what subject(s) are you an authority?
Christmas has been my favourite time of the year since early childhood and, in the manner of many people on the autistic spectrum, I immediately wanted to know as much about it as possible. I became absolutely obsessed with facts and stories about the festive season. I had a huge love for the story of Christmas and the stories with Christmas at their heart like A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens. Christmas music was, and remains, my delight and the films and TV specials became part of my Christmas traditions.
Since our children were old enough to understand Christmas I have had even more opportunities to indulge my obsession and I have tried to turn them into Christmas lovers as well, with some success.
I can reel off facts and figures as well as anecdotes, and for the last decade or more have introduced my overseas students to the delight of the festive season. At work I was the expert on Christmas music and the organiser of the Secret Santa.
Some may find my extreme love for this time of the year baffling or worse, but I know that I have an audience of like minded people who appreciate my expertise. Those of you who are interested can find over 50 Christmas related articles on my blog and, for the 4th year, I will be taking part in Blogmas.
Any other Christmas lovers are always welcome on this blog!
What are you most excited about for the future?
For me, the future started on June 20 2025. That was the day I packed away my last few items from my desk, took a bag of presents and left my job of seven and a half years. It was the longest time I had spent in any job, it was the 34th year of teaching and the end of year round full time teaching. A week later I started a 9 week Pre-Sessional course so I definitely haven’t finished with the profession, but I have finished with commuting day after day. So, as I said in the title, what’s next? Well, to find out who I am as David and not to define myself by my job. I want to explore my fascination with the academic discipline of Popular Culture. I would love to do a PhD in the future but I am aware that it might not be possible. I will be putting together family history in various media and hopefully rekindling memories for all concerned. I will be blogging much more. I will also be fulfilling two long term dreams, walking in the stone circle of Stonehenge and going to Salzburg for the Christmas Market.
A year ago I was worrying about what was next, but now I can’t wait!


What is your favorite genre of music?
This is today’s prompt on Jetpack and I thought that it was time I answered one of these!
One of the things I have always done is ignored genres in favour of music I like, but I have found a number of common threads in my music.
My formative years
I look at my musical heartland as the 10 years from 1975 to 1984 the ages of 9 to 19. Favourite acts ranged from ABBA to The Wombles, via The Carpenters, Queen and Helen Reddy! The interesting thing was that those groups never really stuck to one genre, so perhaps that’s the reason why I didn’t. In that time Glam was on its way out, although Slade and Mud still had the odd hit, rock n roll revival courtesy of first Showaddywaddy and then Shakin Stevens brought the 50s back to the upper reaches of the charts. Punk was too early for me in 1977 (although I was a big fan of The Undertones) but I enjoy it now.
However, New Wave came in when I was 14 and hit the sweet spot. The Police were my favourite group of the early 80s and the interplay between the three members on guitar, drums and bass was astounding at least for the first three albums. Other groups in a similar genre I enjoyed were The Jam and The Boomtown Rats
The next big movement was Synth Pop. Now if I have a musical style that appeals above all else, it’s that. OMD, Depeche Mode, The Eurythmics, Heaven 17, Ultravox, Bronski Beat, the list goes on and on! Even now, there are some newer synth artists that I really enjoy like Paul K and Lines of Flight who are able to give me that same sense of enjoyment.
Around that time I also discovered rock music in all its forms. Meatloaf absolutely mesmerised me at 15. I really liked the New Wave of British Heavy Metal with groups like Judas Priest, Rainbow and Iron Maiden. The 80s bands like Europe, Def Leppard and Bon Jovi were lumped together under the disparaging title of Hair Metal by the critics but they were often hogging my turntable.
Bringing things up to date I love the female artists of today like Taylor Swift, Sabrina Carpenter, Zoe Wees, The Last Dinner Party and Wet Leg. They are lyrically brilliant, engaging, frequently very funny and they put their feelings on show with no hesitation. I think that last quality in particular so important for their fan base who have so many messages and distractions and sometimes find it so difficult to deal with the barrage. These young women are the role models of today and music fans of any age are lucky to have them.
So there you have it, there are so many different musical genres and influences running through my head and I can listen to any of them, and any that don’t appear in those genres. Just as one final indicator of what I love and have loved over the years here is the choice I made for my decade of 1975 to 1984.



