Describe a family member.
My Grandmother, Grace Quinn, was born Grace Moon on January 29 1905. She was a very talented musician in her youth who played the violin to a very good standard. She was offered the opportunity to study the violin but that required a not insignificant financial input from the family. Unfortunately, she was from a working class family whose focus, as for so many at the time and since, was finding the money to put food on the table. The headmistress of the school she attended told my Great Grandmother that she would pay for the school fees rather than see the talent that Grace had go to waste. My Great Grandmother was extremely offended by what she saw as a personal slight and refused to countenance the offer. So, at 14 Grace gave up the violin and went into service like so many girls of the time.
Once in service her intelligence shone through. In another age she would have definitely gone to university, but she turned her mind to bettering herself. She learnt French and she got a job with the family who owned the Ovaltine brand. This job saw her spending a year in France looking after the children of the family. At the time, a 21 year old woman from such humble beginnings being able to get this opportunity was quite incredible. A full 99 years later, the situation is once again the same as we deal with a world that only values money and influence not ability.
Through her job in service she met Gerald, a butler, who became her husband. They were together for more than 40 years and had two children. They lived in London, in various places before retiring to a small village called Felsted in Essex. They had a lovely cottage with a very nice garden and they opened their house to me. The atmosphere was much more relaxed than I was used to at home and I loved visiting and staying there. I first recall meeting them in 1972 when I was seven. Straight away we were partners in crime! She was mischievous, had a great sense of humour and was a fund of good sense.
Whenever I needed advice it was my Nana who I turned to, particularly when she moved to La Providence in Rochester and I visited her for lunch almost every Saturday. She was in her late seventies and early eighties and sharp as a tack. I got to know her as a person, not just my Nana, and she was one of the most amazing people I ever met.
I left for Japan in 1995 the year of her 90th birthday. By that time she had met our two sons and developed a real affection for my wife who she said was exactly the person I needed. She was right about that as she was about so much else. I said to her that I was going to be away for three years but that I would see her when I came back. She said, very firmly, that she was not going to be around when that happened. It was a statement of intent, not a form of words. As it turned out, I stayed away for three and a half years, during which time she moved into a home, having developed late onset dementia. A week before I came back she died and I am convinced that it was something she determined for herself as she wanted me to remember her as she was. Well, she succeeded. I only have amazing memories of a sharp, funny and totally wise force of nature, my Grandmother Grace, who lived up to that name all her life.
What is your favorite form of physical exercise?
The phrase in the title and many other variations will be used when I am walking with other people! You see, to me the best form of exercise is quick walking and I actually find it way more tiring to walk slowly. There is a certain amount of exaggeration used when describing my walking and it used to be the source of some amusement at work when people saw me ‘speeding’ through the streets from London. I find something between 3 and 4 miles an hour to be the sweet spot, pace wise. I feel nice levels of exertion but I don’t feel uncomfortable. The same is not always true for the people who walk with me and, as my wife and daughter told me last week their fitness trackers actually showed them as running 🤣🤣!!
I know that walking can seem boring to many people, but if you set your targets, stretch your pace at times and constantly challenge yourself it makes it a very satisfying form of exercise. On the walk to work I used to find people who were walking at a similar speed to me and then look to get ahead of them. It was a great way to keep myself focused on intermediate goals. I also looked to beat my previous best times from one place to another and that way shaved about 3 minutes off of my walk to work over the years.
I have done, I think, 6 charity walks over the past few years and one longer term challenge of walking 1 million steps in 3 months in aid of Diabetes Research. That was a brilliant challenge because I needed to average about 12000 steps a day and I explored areas of my town I had never visited before in order to keep my step count up.
Walking keeps me fit for my age, active in a way that doesn’t take too much of a toll on my joints, and makes me content even in times where things are difficult. I will never stop appreciating the fact that I can walk around and keep active in such an uncomplicated way.
How much would you pay to go to the moon?
I would pay absolutely nothing to go to the moon! After all, it’s got no atmosphere 🤣🤣! Sorry, had to get that joke in.
There is so much to see here on Earth, why would you want to go to an arid satellite? I remember as a child being fascinated by the process of space travel but being a little hazy on the reasons. Now I know that the only reason it all started was for either the US or the Soviet Union to have bragging rights.
We developed a lot of scientific breakthroughs as a result of the Apollo missions in particular, but other than that, what did they mean? Nothing, really, apart from proving that we could leave the Earth’s atmosphere. As Shakespeare might have observed, ‘Full of sound and fury signifying nothing’!
Going to space serves no purpose other than to give tech billionaires the aura of explorers. Stay on the Earth and try to fix the planet we are on. There is no Planet B.
What alternative career paths have you considered or are interested in?
I have loved writing since I was about 8 or 9, and I always dreamed about making my living as a writer. The first idea I had was to get a job on a local paper, in the days when you could get trained up from scratch, but it was a world I knew nothing about, including how to find the apprenticeships that may be available. It was sports writing I really wanted to do, but I found out, after some research, that you would start on general work and I knew instinctively that I wouldn’t be able to deal with the more difficult side of the job. I was very awkward around people so I would have been poor at asking questions in the right way. There was no direct route into sports writing so I knocked that idea on the head.
Later on I set my sights on writing about music, because it was something I was confident I could do. Again, the problem was how to get into the field, because the music magazines were closed shops to most of the population. More so than sports writing as it turned out because there was no way of finding the person to contact and no way of practising by writing for fanzines or similar. When I look back, again I wouldn’t have had the people skills to deal with the more difficult side of the work.
Later, I had the idea of writing books and this time I actually got as far as self publishing electronically on Amazon. The problem there was that I opened myself up to other people’s views and some of their views were aggressively negative. After two attempts to put my work out there I retired from the scene, unable to deal with the critics. Were they good books? Probably not although I like to think they had some merit to them. Could I have improved? Certainly I could have done. Would I have ever have been good enough to get someone to publish me? Very unlikely. It is a time consuming and emotionally draining process, plotting, writing and editing a book, and I didn’t have the time or the thick skin necessary to persue it.
Now, you may have noticed a theme here! The truth is that I have always written and I will always write. I have become, I hope, a decent blogger but, as with every other writing based dream, almost certainly not good enough to make a living at it. I now write for myself and for anyone who might want to read it. This means I can be enthusiastic, true to myself and happy with my writing. Perhaps that is the dream I have always had, but I always wonder, ‘What if?’
